The trap of empathy, true kindness, and self-reliance support that opens up the potential of yourself and others

In our daily lives, we meet various people and encounter various events. How do we react when we see the suffering and difficulties of others? In many cases, you may feel the desire to "do something for them" or "help them." In particular, people with higher levels of empathy perceive other people's problems as if they were their own and actively try to solve them. However, those well-intentioned actions don't always bring the best outcome for the other person. Rather, excessive good intentions can hinder the independence of others and even deprive them of opportunities for growth.

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In this article, we will delve deeply into the "empathy trap" that people with high empathy tend to fall into, and consider its mechanism and specific countermeasures. In addition, we will explore what true kindness is and what self-reliance support is to maximize the potential of others, with specific examples. Finally, we will reaffirm the importance of self-growth, face yourself, and provide tips for opening up possibilities.

1. The light and shadow of the brain and empathy that makes the other person think it is you

Empathy is an essential ability to facilitate relationships and enrich social life. By understanding and empathizing with the emotions of others, we can live in cooperation and support each other. However, if we are too empathetic, we can get caught up in the emotions of the other person, blurring the lines between ourselves and others.

This has a lot to do with how the brain works. According to brain science research, when we observe the behavior and emotions of others, nerve cells called "mirror neurons" are activated in our brains. Mirror neurons reproduce the same activity in your brain, as if you were experiencing the action or emotion yourself. In other words, when we see others suffering, we feel like we are suffering ourselves, and we have the urge to do something to get rid of that suffering.

This mechanism works in the same way when we speak ill of others. It is difficult for the brain to distinguish between speaking ill of others and talking about oneself, and the person who is speaking ill of it is also affected by negative emotions.

People with high empathy are more active in the work of these mirror neurons, so they are more likely to feel the emotions of others more strongly and are more likely to mistake the other person for themselves. As a result, they perceive the other person's problem as if it were their own problem and unconsciously act to help them.

2. The danger of excessive good intentions and the shackles of overprotection that hinder independence

The desire to help others seems beautiful at first glance. However, you need to be aware that your good intentions can hinder the other person's independence and deprive them of opportunities for growth. In particular, preemptively solving the other person's problems or giving them excessive help, as overprotective parents do with their children, can undermine the other person's independence and instill a sense of dependence.

For example, let's consider a case where you easily give money to someone who is in need of money. The person who receives the money may be saved temporarily, but it will not solve the underlying problem. In fact, it may become the norm to receive money, and you may neglect your own earning efforts. In addition, they may become more dependent on the person who gives them money, which may lead to a stronger sense of dependence.

This is also true in other cases. For example, if you constantly help or do the work for a colleague who is not doing well, you can deprive them of opportunities to grow and lose their confidence. In addition, if you are afraid of your partner's failure and help them with everything, you may undermine your partner's sense of independence and lower their self-esteem.

Excessive goodwill may be a temporary relief for the other person, but in the long run, it becomes a shackle that hinders their growth and hinders their independence.

3. True kindness is the courage to believe in the potential of others and watch over them.

So what is true kindness? It is not about helping the other person easily, but about believing in the other person's potential and encouraging independence. In other words, when the other person is facing difficulties, you should focus on supporting them to find a solution on their own, rather than reaching out easily.

For example, if you are in need of money, instead of giving them money, you can tell them how to make money or introduce them to a job. In addition, it is important to give hints and advice to colleagues who are not doing well at work to solve problems, rather than helping them, in order to encourage their growth. In addition, giving your partner the opportunity to learn from their failures and supporting them to build on their success stories, rather than helping them out of fear of failure, is essential to fostering their independence.

True kindness comes from believing in the potential of others and having the courage to watch over them. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, give them the opportunity to learn from their mistakes, and support them in accumulating success experiences is the most important thing to encourage them to grow and develop a sense of independence.

4. The importance of self-growth: Let yourself shine and be a light to those around you

In order to help and support others, we must first be satisfied with ourselves. In other words, if you neglect self-growth and are in a state of self-instability, it is difficult to truly help others.

Personal growth is not just about acquiring knowledge and skills. It involves facing yourself, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, controlling your emotions, reducing stress, and maintaining a healthy state of mind and body.

Continuing self-growth allows us to gain confidence and calmly deal with difficult situations. In addition, you will not be swayed by the emotions of others, but you will be able to see the problem from an objective perspective and provide appropriate advice and support. In addition, by shining yourself, you can illuminate and positively influence the people around you.

There are many ways to continue your personal growth. Reading, attending seminars, starting a new hobby, meditating, exercising, traveling, and participating in volunteer activities can also lead to personal growth. The key is to find something that you truly enjoy and keep going.

By continuing to grow ourselves, we will be able to live a richer life and have a positive impact on others.

5. Freedom from negative suggestions, increase self-esteem, and open up possibilities

We are subjected to various negative connotations in our daily lives. Negative connotations such as "I can't do it," "I'm going to fail anyway," and "I'm lonely" rob us of our self-confidence, suppress our behavior, and close off our possibilities.

In order to be free from these negative connotations, you need to increase your self-esteem. Self-affirmation is the feeling of acknowledging one's worth and evaluating oneself in a positive way. People with high self-esteem are able to actively take on difficult situations, not be afraid of failure, and continue to grow themselves.

There are many ways to increase your self-esteem. First, get into the habit of acknowledging and praising your own good qualities. Also, reflect on your past successes and regain your confidence. In addition, by setting goals and achieving them, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and increase your self-efficacy. Then, receive words of gratitude from the people around you and recognize the value of your existence.

The "How to Solve Bad Suggestions" introduced in the text is also a type of affirmation that can be expected to have the effect of rewriting autosuggestion. It's worth a try when you're trapped in negative emotions.

Increasing self-esteem frees us from negative connotations and allows us to act with confidence. And by believing in your potential and actively taking on challenges, you can open up new paths and create a rich life.

6. Follow your intuition and live yourself, a compass for a bright future

We tend to think that it is always right to judge and act rationally. However, intuition is a valuable source of information based on the knowledge and experience that we have unconsciously accumulated. By following our intuition, we can sometimes find novel ideas and solutions that we may not have thought of with reason.

In order to follow your intuition, you must first listen to your own inner voice. Through meditation or yoga, you can quiet your mind, clear away distractions, and create a state where you can easily accept your intuition. Also, in your daily life, actively do what you feel comfortable with and hone your intuition.

By following our intuition and living ourselves, we can be more creative and have more free thinking. And you can reach your full potential and create a brilliant future.

Harnessing the power of summary and empathy to color the world with true kindness

We have an amazing capacity for empathy. However, if empathy goes too far, the boundaries between yourself and others can become blurred, which can hinder the independence of the other person. We must not forget that true kindness lies in believing in the potential of others and encouraging independence.

By continuing to grow and let ourselves shine, we can illuminate and positively influence those around us. Freed from negative suggestions, following our intuition, and living ourselves, we can be creative and have free thinking.

Let's use the power of empathy to color the world with true kindness and create a richer life with the ideas and advice presented in this article so that we can reach the full potential of ourselves and others.

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965 Since childhood, he has been plagued by troubles, illnesses, and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena. However, one day at the age of 20, he participated in an event, had a strange experience at the venue, and received a lightning energy from heaven that seemed to pierce his brain and his spinal cord, and his psychic abilities blossomed. After that, he started researching psychology and psychic powers, and now he has combined psychic abilities and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics Exorcism" with his own radionics technique. Beyond exorcism, memorial services, and healing, "it is possible to cure luck"