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Let go of high hopes and build a new love

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In today's world, seeking the ideal partner can often lead to stress and disappointment. Lofty standards can act as a wall to protect you, but they can also block the path to a new love. If you can break down that barrier little by little, you may be able to meet new people and have relationships right around the corner unexpectedly.

How can we remove these barriers naturally and effortlessly? And what kind of freedom comes from letting go of high hopes, and what kind of wonderful encounters may await you in the future? Here are some specific ideas on how to create a new love that starts with small steps in your daily life. Let's start with that mental preparation. Well, what's next...?

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Let go of high hopes and become the me who is loved~

Let go of high hopes and become the me who is loved~

What kind of love are you dreaming of? Heart-pounding encounters, exciting moments, and a warm bond that makes you want to be together forever.

I'm sure everyone is looking for such a wonderful love. However, in reality, things sometimes don't go as planned.
"I can't meet my ideal partner" "I always repeat the same kind of love"
"Somehow, I feel like I can't be happy all the time..."

If you're feeling that way, why don't you stop for a moment and face your heart? Maybe what's standing in the way of your love is a little curse called "high hope."

This time, we will release the curse of such "high hopes",
I will tell you the gentle magic that will help you find a truly happy love.
Let's take a look together, slowly, without rushing.

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I'm ideal for a prince, I can't compromise ~ I wonder why lol

Why do we have high hopes?

First of all, what exactly is "high hope"?
It's about looking for the perfect partner, just like the main character in a movie, or expecting only what is convenient for you.

"A nice person like a prince will appear and make me happy."
"I want someone who understands everything about me and is always kind to me."
In that way, there are times when we end up drawing ideals.

But why do we have such high hopes? The reason may vary from person to person.

From the hurt of past relationships and the experience of being hurt in past relationships, the feeling of "I definitely don't want to fail next time" becomes stronger, and I may set my ideals high.
Complex When you feel that you are not confident in yourself, you may be looking for a special person who will love you even if you are like this.
You may be influenced by the people around you, and when you see your friends having a wonderful relationship, you may be impatient, thinking, "I need to have a better relationship, too."
Influenced by the influence of the media and the romantic depictions of dramas and movies, we may have ideals that are far from reality.

These reasons can overshadow your mind, like heavy armor. But that's okay.

You can take off that armor and enjoy love more lightly.

The sad reality of high hopes

"High hopes" may seem to sparkle and shine, like a lovely jewel.
But in reality, it's a bit of a nuisance that makes our love torments 。

This is what tends to happen when you fall in love with high hopes.

If you don't fit the ideal image of the other person, you won't be able to see the good points of the other person, and you will only see their flaws.
I always feel dissatisfied, no matter how wonderful the person I meet, I always feel dissatisfied, thinking "something different" or "if it were more like this".
Because love does not progress easily or because of too high ideals, you may miss the chance to meet, or even if a good person appears, it may be difficult to deepen the relationship.
You may blame yourself, "Why can't I find the ideal person?" and lose confidence in love.
As you continue to pursue your ideal partner, your connection with the people around you may become weaker, and you may feel lonely.

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It's as if you've wandered into a maze, and you can't see the exit.
Don't you have such an experience?

Gentle magic to grasp happy love

But that's okay. Here's the magic to help you find a happy love. These magics don't have to be difficult.
Try it little by little, slowly, at your own pace.

Magic 1: The Magic of Loving Yourself

First of all, the most important thing is to love yourself, to acknowledge and accept yourself for who you are.

Whether it's good or not, I want you to think "this is me" and love it. Find out what you like: Write down three things you like about yourself in a notebook every day. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and regrets, accept that they were important experiences, and forgive yourself.
Recognize your hard work and praise yourself for doing your best every day. "You did a good job today," say gently in your heart.
Treat yourself by eating what you want, going to your favorite places, and rewarding yourself. Make time to take care of yourself, take a relaxing bath, listen to your favorite music, and take care of yourself.

When you learn to love yourself, your heart will be fulfilled and you won't worry too much about what others think of you.
Then, you will naturally be able to become an attractive you.

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Self-love may be necessary for me ~ I'll try. smile

Magic 2: The magic of rethinking the image of the ideal partner

Next, let's review the image of the ideal partner.

Letting go of "high hopes" does not mean abandoning ideals.
It's just a matter of changing it to a more realistic and warmer ideal.

Choose based on your values, not your conditions, and instead of focusing on conditions such as appearance and occupation, focus on whether your values match.
Look for someone you can grow with, even if no one is perfect: No one is without flaws. Look for people who respect each other and can grow together.
Focus not only on your appearance, but also on the inside, such as kindness, sincerity, and compassion. Trust your intuition and cherish your intuition that makes you think, "This person is good."
Don't take your friend's opinion too seriously, and even if your friend says, "This person is good," you don't have to force yourself to date if you don't feel that way.
"Being with this person warms my heart" or "Being with this person makes me feel like myself" may be the person you really need.

When you grow up, you're only interested in money~ It's a balance, I'll reflect on it a little~ lol

Magic 3: The Magic of Enjoying Communication

Communication is very important in nurturing love. By understanding and respecting each other's feelings, you will be able to build a deeper, warmer bond.

Be honest about your feelings: Don't be embarrassed, put your feelings into words.
Listen carefully to what the other person has to say, and show empathy.
Convey your affection not only with words but also with your attitude ・ Convey your affection in non-verbal ways, such as smiles, kind words, and skinship.
Express your gratitude - Cherish the words of "thank you".
Sometimes, trying to spoil or pampering well is one way to deepen your affection.
Respect the other person's opinion, don't just impose your own opinion, but also respect the other person's opinion.
Sometimes, you need to fight, and by fighting, you may be able to understand each other more deeply and deepen your bond.
By valuing communication, you should be able to open each other's hearts and develop a deeper affection.

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There are many things that I don't listen to my boyfriend because it's all about me ~ I'm sorry for my boyfriend

Magic 4: Magic that doesn't rush

Love is not something to be grasped in a hurry.
It's something that you develop slowly over time.

Don't be in a hurry to meet someone, and believe that one day you will have a wonderful encounter.
Don't rush into love, and even if you don't become a lover immediately after meeting, let's slowly deepen the relationship.
Even if things don't go well, don't get discouraged, learn from your mistakes, and make use of them next time.
Don't blame yourself, and when things don't go well, don't blame yourself and take a good rest.
Love isn't everything, let's cherish the time outside of love. Enjoy your hobbies and time with friends.
Don't compare yourself to others, everyone has their own pace. Don't compare yourself to others, go at your own pace.

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Don't be in a hurry, take your time, and enjoy love at your own pace. By unlocking the spell, breaking the curse of high hopes to be loved, and practicing these spells little by little, you will surely become the me you love. Don't look for the perfect partner, but believe in meeting a warm person who loves you for who you are. May your heart be filled with love and happiness.
I'm always rooting for you.

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