2025.04.07

To you who can't forget your ex-boyfriend ~After the rain of your heart, to find a new light~

vibration

When I look up at the night sky, the memories of the past sparkle like stars, and I sigh softly in my heart. For those of you who are spending such days. A painful pain that slowly spreads to the back of the chest. It may be a delicate scar left by a past love.

Feelings for an ex-boyfriend are beautiful and fleeting, like a rainbow after rain. If you're captivated by that rainbow and trapped in the past, you're not alone. But just as it doesn't rain forever, the rain in our hearts will stop someday. And after the rain, a new light shines into the clear sky.

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"I can't forget him..."

"I can't forget him..."

I would like to think together so that you can overcome the rain in your heart and find a new light, while being gentle, polite, and close to you.

Why are we trapped in past loves?

First of all, why are we so trapped in past loves? It's not because you're weak. Our minds have a tendency to store events in the past, especially those that have greatly moved our emotions, as if they were treasures. Memories of fun, moments of excitement, and sadness and loneliness at the time of parting are firmly rooted in the depths of the heart and do not disappear easily.

In particular, memories with your ex-boyfriend may often seem sparkling. That's because memories of the past, over time, tend to be romanticized. The things that were hard or didn't go well fade before you know it, and only the moments of fun shine like jewels. In addition, we tend to care about what is "unfinished."

"If only I had done this at that time..." or "Maybe I could start over..." are major factors that can lead to being trapped in a past relationship. You may have lost confidence that you will never meet such a wonderful person again.

As you can see, there are various reasons behind being trapped in past loves.

Emmy

I'm thinking about my ex-boyfriend and looking back on the past, so I have to move on.

Signs of being trapped in a past love

If any of the following conditions apply to you, it could be a sign that you're stuck in a past relationship.

I frequently check my ex-boyfriend's SNS.

I often dream about my ex-boyfriend. ・ When I see a similar person on the street, I get scared. ・ I can't be proactive in meeting new people. No matter what you're doing, you suddenly think about your ex-boyfriend. I can't throw away mementos from the past. ・ I often look back on the past and say, "What if...".

I don't have confidence in myself now.

Even if you date other people, you will compare them to your ex-boyfriend. - I can't wish for my ex-boyfriend's happiness. If any of these signs sound familiar, stop for a moment and focus on yourself.

eyebrow

I'm a girl with a lot of love, I have too many sparkling memories of my ex-boyfriend, and now I'm dissatisfied with him, Mayu is a bad girl.

Gentle steps to stop the rain in your heart

In order to get out of the state of being trapped in past love, it is necessary to stop the rain in your heart little by little. Don't rush, take it slow, and go at your own pace.

Step 1: Gently face the past

First of all, let's face our past love gently. Instead of trying to force yourself to forget, start by acknowledging its existence.

Cherish "happy memories"

There must have been a lot of happy memories in your past love. You don't have to deny those memories. Let's keep it quietly in our hearts as a precious treasure. Try to remember the emotions of the time when you were happy and remember the happy feelings at that time.

Calmly look at the reasons for the "breakup"

Let's take a sober look at the reasons why the two of you decided to break up. By analyzing objectively rather than being emotional, you may come to new realizations. Maybe there was a gap between the two of them that could not be bridged.

Sorting out "regrets"

You may be feeling regret for your past choices. But the past cannot be changed. It is important to turn regret into food for the rest of your life. You can grow by not only regretting it, but also learning from it.

Exhale "emotions"

Sadness, loneliness, anger, etc., let's let out the emotions that have accumulated in the depths of our hearts without holding back. You can write it down in a notebook, ask someone you trust to listen to you, or cry to refresh yourself. By not suppressing your emotions and releasing them properly, your heart will become lighter.

Jun

When I faced the past, I wanted to get back together with my ex-boyfriend. I wonder if Jun is a bad boy

Step 2: Say goodbye to the past

Once you've faced the past, it's time to start preparing to say goodbye to the past.

Practice physical distancing

First of all, it is important to maintain a physical distance from your ex. Unfollow them on social media, delete their contacts, and keep your ex-boyfriend's information out of them. Take the plunge and get rid of your mementos.

Say "Conclusion"

In your heart, say "Thank you for everything you've done" to your ex-boyfriend and say goodbye. It is an important ritual to move forward without being trapped in the past.

Be grateful for your past self

In your past relationships, you've experienced a lot and grown up. Say "thank you" to your past self and express your gratitude. Your past experiences are an important part of who you are today.

Step 3: Find a new "light"

Say goodbye to the past and start your journey in search of a new light.

Make time to take care of yourself

Actively make time to do what you love and relax. It is important to eat delicious food, take a relaxing bath, listen to your favorite music, and take time to rest your mind and body.

Start a new hobby or lesson

By taking on new challenges, you can make new discoveries and meet new people. Let's try something that interests you and that you want to try, even if only a little. A new hobby or lesson can be a change of pace and open up a whole new world.

Seeking new encounters

Meeting new people can heal emotional wounds and open up new possibilities for love. Actively go out, attend events, and meet new people.

Don't neglect self-improvement

Polishing your inner and outer self will help you feel more confident. It is good to enjoy makeup and fashion, or it is good to read, study, and enrich your inner world. By improving yourself, you will be able to meet a new you.

Living in the "now"

It is important not to be stuck in the past and to live in the present. Let's focus on what's in front of us and accumulate small happiness.

Oguri

My ex-boyfriend is too nice, and I only look at the past, but I change my mind and move on.

Step 4: Believe in the "After the Rain" of the Mind

It may take some time for the rain in your heart to stop. Sometimes, the rain will start again. Still, don't give up. The rain in my heart will surely stop.

And after the rain, a new light always shines into the clear sky. Don't rush, take it slow, and go at your own pace.

Finally, to you

brown

You are never alone. In the same way, there are many people who struggle with past loves.
I sincerely hope that you, who are reading this text, will be able to overcome the rain in your heart as soon as possible and find a new light.

And I believe that one day we will be able to smile softly in our hearts as warm memories of our past loves.
You'll be fine, I'm sure. The sky after the rain of your heart must be more beautiful than you can imagine. Under that beautiful sky, you will find happiness that is only yours. I'm rooting for you.

I want to read it together