2025.04.02 2025.06.29

恋愛の不安を解消！未来のために知るべき「いい彼氏」を見つける方法

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When you fall in love, your heart beats, doesn't it? The time I spend with him, whom I love, is as happy as a dream, and every day seems to be dyed rosy. But sometimes love can bother and make us anxious. Especially when you wonder if the other person is really a good person for me, your heart will flutter.

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1 For a sparkling future. How to find a "good boyfriend" with a kind eye

For a sparkling future. How to find a "good boyfriend" with a kind eye

In this article, we will provide you with tips on how to distinguish between a "good boyfriend" and a "not-so-good boyfriend" from a gentle perspective. Don't be impatient, take your time, and receive the words that resonate with you.

Jun

I'm a bad girl who likes a bad man, I want to be an adult ~

It's like a jewelry box, cherishing your own brilliance

First of all, there is a first thing to remember. That is, you are the only one in this world, and you are irreplaceable. You're like a jewel box, with a lot of charm and potential. So you don't have to try to change yourself just for someone else's sake, or force yourself to fit in with them.

Someone who cares about you will love you for who you are. Taking care of yourself is the first step to a wonderful relationship. First, listen to your own heart.

Midori

There are no more men who polish themselves too much and balance themselves. I wonder if this is selfish lol.

What kind of person is a "good boyfriend"? A gentle light that warms your heart

A "good boyfriend" is someone who warmly illuminates your heart like the sun. Being together makes your mind calm and fills you with a sense of security. He is such a kind person who gently wraps you around like a breeze.

Let's take a look at some of the specific features.

Someone who cares about your heart

They listen carefully to what you have to say. There is no interruption or random interruption.
They always try to understand your feelings. Even if you don't put it into words, they may be able to sense your feelings from your facial expressions and gestures.
They respect your opinions and thoughts. We don't deny it out of our heads, saying, "That's not right," or impose our own ideas.
They will try to understand your hobbies and values. Even if there is a part of me that I can't relate to, instead of denying it, they accept it, saying, "That's how I think about it."
We respect your choice and will not force you. If you say "I don't want to do it," I respect it and never force it.

Someone who envelops you like a pool of spring sunshine

When you are in trouble, they are always willing to help you. They will ask you, "Is there anything I can do?" and they will gently snuggle up to you.
They will also notice small changes in you. When you don't feel well or don't have energy, they will gently ask you, "What's wrong?"
They are always watching your hard work. Even if it's a small thing, they will praise you for a job well done, which warms your heart.
They express their gratitude through words and actions. They will try to please you with the words "thank you", as well as gifts and surprises.
It will adjust to your pace. When you are tired, they will not force you to play, but will let you rest.

eyebrow

I want to meet a nice man ~ Don't go near a bad man ~

A person who is connected by a strong bond in the name of trust

They always keep their promises. Even if it's a trivial promise, they will keep it properly, so you can trust them with peace of mind.
I'm not going to lie. They are honest and show you who you are.
There is no such thing as speaking ill of you to others. They always care about you.
I don't hide anything from you. They will tell you anything, which fills you with a sense of security.
They always care about you. They express their love not only with words, but also with their actions, so you can feel loved.

Someone who makes you smile naturally when you are with them

The conversation is fun and there is always a smile on your face. You can get excited about common hobbies and topics, and laugh with each other.
They value the time we spend together. They don't just look at their smartphones, they really enjoy their time with you.
They always try to entertain you. They will tell you funny stories, plan dates, and make you smile.
Seeing your smile makes me happier than anything else. Your smile will be the source of his energy.
Being with you fills my heart. It's as if the pieces of a puzzle fit together perfectly, and there's a feeling that fills your heart.

Someone who wholeheartedly supports your growth

They will wholeheartedly support your dreams and goals. They encourage you to "do your best!" and give you the advice you need to achieve it.
They will rejoice in your growth and share it with you. They rejoice in your success as if it were their own. It will guide you in a better direction. They kindly pay attention to what you don't do well and give you the opportunity to grow.
They believe in your potential. "You can do it!" is always a positive encouragement 。
They will talk about the future with you. They will listen to your opinion and think about the future together.

People who don't get on a roller coaster of emotions

There is no such thing as one-sided anger or frustration. They will discuss it calmly and respectfully with respect for your feelings.
They don't get emotional and respond calmly. You don't let your emotions get the best of you yelling or throwing things.
We will never use words that hurt you. I will never say anything that will hurt your feelings.
The waves of emotions are calm and reassuring. I always feel stable, so I feel calm when I'm with you.
We will never do anything that makes you feel uneasy. It always makes you feel safe.

I have a hard time with my ex-bad husband, so I understand it well ~ A gentle man is the best.

Someone who can look into the future with you

They talk positively about their future with you. They will think about marriage and children together while listening to your opinions.
It shows that you are working hard for the future. We work hard with goals, so you can be inspired and grow together.
Sharing a vision for the future strengthens the bond between the two of you. By discussing each other's future plans, you can build a deeper relationship of trust.
I value my current relationship because I am serious about my future with you. We will spare no effort to maintain our current relationship.
They respect you as a partner in the future. We can grow together while supporting each other's dreams and goals.

"Wait a minute!" lights up the red light, characteristics of a "boyfriend who isn't"

"Boyfriend who isn't" is like a storm that can disturb your mind. Being together can be emotionally exhausting and make you feel anxious and frustrated all the time. It's like a dark night road, the kind of person who makes you feel uneasy.

Jesse

I also often get hurt by this, notes, notes

Trying to manipulate you, like a puppet with a string

They try to limit your behavior, your clothes, and your friendships. "Don't talk to other guys," "That outfit is revealing," and so on, they try to take away your freedom.
Deny your opinions and thoughts. "That's not right" or "You don't know anything" will deny your ideas and try to impose your own ideas.
Tries to make you jealous. They deliberately make friends with other women or say or do things that make you feel uneasy.
Treat you like your property. "You're mine," they try to treat you in their own way, without respecting your wishes.
They will always try to keep an eye on you. They will try to keep track of your every move or force you to contact them.

People who can't use magic in the name of compassion

Don't try to understand your feelings. "You don't think about anything anyway," he says, ignoring your feelings.
It does not take into account your physical condition or convenience. Even if you're tired, you'll only try to prioritize your own convenience.
They don't mind using words that hurt you. They use words like "ugly" and "fat" that disparage your appearance.
I only act selfishly. They don't listen to your opinion and try to act as they see fit 。
Treat your feelings as if they were ignoring you. They act selfishly, without thinking about your feelings.

People who easily break bonds of trust

Easily break promises. "I'm sorry, I forgot," etc., and break the promise without any scruples.
I lie with impunity. When things go wrong for you, you will immediately try to lie and cheat.
Get close to other women. They try to be intimate with other women, knowing that you will be hurt.
I'm going to hide something from you. There are a lot of things I can't tell you.
It's easy to betray your trust. They act in a way that betrays you with impunity.

It's like a dark tunnel, with no exit in sight

Conversation is not fun. They don't keep up the conversation, they talk boringly, and it's not fun to be together.
There is no common topic and the atmosphere is always awkward. We don't understand each other, so we always feel distant.
It makes you look bored. When you're talking, you're just looking at your phone or sighing.
Even if we are together, our hearts are not satisfied. It's as if I'm missing something.
They don't try to cherish their time with you. They act in a way that wastes their time with you.

Someone who wants to rip off your wings

Laugh at your dreams and goals. "I can't do that" or "I should stop" will make fun of your dreams and goals.
Hinder your efforts. When you're doing your best, they get in the way or drag you down.
They criticize you all the time. They always say things like "you're no good" or "you can't do anything" that denies you.
Deny your potential. "I can't do it for you anyway," they try to take away your potential.
Doesn't try to make you grow. Trying to interfere with your attempts to grow.

On a roller coaster of emotions, the one who swings you around

They get angry or moody quickly. The slightest thing can quickly make you angry or moody.
Hitting objects or committing violence. When they get emotional, they can hit objects or be violent towards you.
Curse you. When they get angry, they say abusive things about you or say things that deny your personality.
Acts in a way that makes you anxious. The waves of emotions are so intense that they always make you anxious.
I won't say anything to reassure you. They don't try to understand your feelings when you're anxious.

Someone who leaves all future plans to you

They don't want to talk about the future. They try to avoid talking about the future, such as marriage and children.
Ignoring your feelings about marriage and children. They don't listen to your opinion, they only insist on their own opinion.
They don't take responsibility for their current relationship because they don't take the future seriously. I'm not serious about my future with you.
It only puts the burden on you. I try to leave everything in the future to you.
I live a sloppy life and don't feel hopeful for the future. You may not have any plans for the future.

An important compass for identification

These characteristics are only indicative. People's personalities are complex, and it is not possible to make a blanket judgment as "good" or "bad" 。

What matters is your intuition.

If you feel that being with this person calms you down, or that this person cares about you, then there is a good chance that he is a "good boyfriend" for you 。

On the other hand, if you feel that being with this person makes you mentally tired, or that this person does not care about you, stop for a moment and think about it 。

Obey the voice of your heart. Love is a wonderful magic that colors your life, slowly, and at your own pace. But you don't have to rush to choose a partner. Take your time, at your own pace, and find the best partner for you. If you're struggling in a relationship right now, don't keep it to yourself. Talk to a trusted friend or family member. I'm sure they'll be able to help you. I sincerely wish you happiness.

What did you think? I would be happy if there was something that resonated with you, even a little. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask.