2025.04.04

Liberation from relationships ~ How to let go of tiredness Mental energy

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In our daily lives, we live in constant interaction with others. Our relationships range from family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, and even strangers we connect with on social media.

While these relationships enrich our lives and bring us joy and stimulation, they can also be a source of great stress and fatigue at times. In particular, the "tiredness" experienced by many people is not just physical fatigue, but something that deeply drains our minds and emotions.

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The problem of "tiring relationships" and how we overcome it
- Fatigue in relationships is like a bottomless swamp

The problem of "tiring relationships" and how we overcome it

Fatigue in relationships is like a bottomless swamp

It gradually takes away our energy and disrupts the balance of our minds and bodies. Even if you seem to be communicating smoothly on the surface, if you are constantly on the inside and hypersensitive to the other person's emotions and reactions, you will unknowingly become exhausted.

Some relationships allow you to maintain a reasonable sense of distance, while others require you to always be very careful and try not to spoil the other person's mood.

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Midori

When they pile up, we run out of mental energy, and we may even have no energy to do anything, as if we are running out of battery.

For example, try to think back to your interactions with colleagues or bosses at work. It is essential to cooperate and respect each other in order to run smoothly on a day-to-day basis. However, some people may only insist on their own opinions, have a grumpy attitude all the time, or push the blame on you.

Jesse

Communicating with people can be more mentally taxing than you might think.

Even with family members, as parents and children, emotional conflicts and misunderstandings can arise in the course of each position and role.

Even in your relationship with friends, you may hide your true self by constantly adjusting to the other person or being overly attentive.

Naomi

Pont

Neighborhood relationships require a certain amount of cooperation as a member of the community, but sometimes it can be an undue burden.

These relationships themselves are inherently important to us, and there should be joy and security in them. However, for some reason, we sometimes sigh deeply on the way home, saying, "I'm really tired today...", or the moment we are suddenly alone, we are attacked by an indescribable fatigue.

Cathy

Chronic mental fatigue can have a negative effect.

We lose our own mental space, which can negatively affect our relationships with our loved ones and friends. You may feel irritated or emotional over trivial things, or, conversely, you may not feel anything at all.

Donbei

So, what exactly is "tiredness"? Why do we get so tired in our relationships? At the root of this is our personality, our way of thinking, and the exchange of energy in our relationships.

In general, it is said that people who get tired easily have some common characteristics. It looks like this:

Emmy

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Good at sensing the feelings and emotions of others: They tend to be sensitive to the emotions of those around them and try to empathize with them.

If you have a strong desire for the happiness of the other person, you will feel more tired.

If someone is in need, I can't leave them alone, and I have a strong desire to help them somehow.

They have a strong sense of responsibility and are serious about everything: They try to fulfill the roles and responsibilities given to them and cannot cut corners.
They tend to read too much into the atmosphere of the place, and they are sensitive to the surrounding situation and atmosphere, and try to say and do things that are appropriate for the occasion.
In relationships, we tend to prioritize meeting the expectations of others: We tend to act in a self-sacrificing way, prioritizing meeting the expectations of others over our own feelings.
People with these traits are often referred to as "highly sensitive people," "HSPs," or "empaths."
HSPs are born with a very sensitive nervous system and tend to be hypersensitive to their surroundings and the emotions of others.

Empaths have the ability to feel other people's emotions as if they were their own

Empath traits are not a bad thing, but rather very important for people to feel compassion and security. However, due to its delicacy, it also has the problem of unconsciously absorbing too much of the energy around it and consuming too much of its own energy.

Fatigue of heavy energy and "qi" ~ Deep dive from an energy perspective

As the "qi" in the word "qi tiredness" indicates, this phenomenon is deeply related to the exchange of invisible energy. Every day, we are exposed to not only good energy, but also negative energy. Calm air and joyful moods bring us vitality and healing, but at the same time, heavy and sunken energies such as anxiety, anger, and sadness also affect our minds.
In the workplace and in public places, diverse energies are emitted from different people. When they are mixed, we may feel "somewhat restless" or "my heart is buzzing".

There are various types of energy.

Some energies are bright and vibrant, while others are heavy and gloomy, or even aggressive. Exposure to calm, relaxing energies can help us heal and rejuvenate, but prolonged exposure to anxious and stressful energies can be exhausting both physically and mentally.

In particular, people called HSPs or empaths are very sensitive to the energies and emotions emitted by others. Like a sponge, it absorbs the energy around you, so it's easy to feel like you're on a roller coaster of emotions all the time.

Akane

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They instantly read not only other people's words and facial expressions, but also the emotions behind them, so they work harder than necessary to meet their expectations, and they are exhausted.

In addition, modern society is overloaded with information and is constantly exposed to various stimuli. Through social media and the news, we have more opportunities to come into contact with other people's emotions and events, which may be unconsciously draining our energy.

Naomi

Pont

Especially if you keep coming into contact with negative information and emotions, you can feel exhausted as if you were experiencing it yourself.

In order to overcome this situation, it is important to first recognize that you may have HSP or empath traits, and then accept them. Self-understanding is the first step to reducing fatigue and the first step to taking care of yourself.

Cathy

Freedom from fatigue, two keys and specific practices

In order to reduce fatigue and build healthier relationships, we need to be aware of two keys: self-understanding and energy balance.

1. The importance of self-understanding and specific practices

Self-understanding is the most important factor in overcoming fatigue. First of all, it is necessary to objectively understand your personality and traits and understand "why you get tired". People with HSP or empath tendencies tend to be in a state of constant tension because they are more empathetic to the emotions of others and are sensitive to their surroundings.

Donbei

Self-analysis: Start by analyzing yourself objectively.

Keeping a journal or taking a self-analysis test can help you understand your thinking and behavior patterns.

It is also important to recognize your emotions and recognize your emotions.

Being aware of what emotions you are feeling at any given time can help you identify the triggers of your emotions.

Emmy

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It is also important to take care of yourself and take care of yourself.

If you feel tired, don't overdo it and try to get some rest. Listen to your favorite music, take a bath, and try to have time for yourself to relax.

It is also important to separate yourself from others, and to be aware that other people's emotions belong to others.

Don't let the other person's emotions sway, but value your own feelings. Just because others are depressed doesn't mean you have to force yourself to be fine.

Kazuhisa Fukutomi

2. How to Balance Your Energy and Implement Specific Practices

In order to balance your energy, it is essential to be aware of "setting boundaries." The more sensitive people are, the more empathetic and accepting they are for the emotions and situations of others than necessary. Therefore, it is important to consciously "not bring the other person's energy into yourself".

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Be conscious of setting boundaries and setting healthy boundaries between people.

It's important to recognize that other people's problems are someone else's problem and not your own.

It is also important to release energy in an appropriate way without hoarding the negative energy you feel. By devoting yourself to exercise, meditation, or hobbies, you can refresh your mind and body.

Akane

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Make time to create space and make space in your mind. Being alone and facing yourself in a quiet space will reset your mind and give you a sense of disconnection from the energy of others.

Getting in touch with nature, taking a walk in nature, or soaking up the sun in a park

You can refresh your mind and body. The energy of nature heals and energizes us.

Naomi

Pont

Satisfying yourself First of all, it is important to take care of yourself. Try to satisfy yourself by doing what you love and eating delicious food. By satisfying yourself, you can also afford to be kind to others.

Steps and practical action guidelines to create a life without fatigue

Here are three practical steps you can take to let go of fatigue and live more like yourself and with ease.

Keep a reasonable distance from others: Be conscious of setting healthy boundaries between yourself and others. It is important to have the awareness that "do not take everything in." Try to keep your own pace without trying to force yourself to fit in with the other person or being swayed by their emotions.
Make self-care a top priority and make a conscious effort to make time to take care of your mind and body. Eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, and exercising moderately can help you recover your energy. It's also important to take time for yourself to relax.
Live your life in your own way: Don't be bound by the expectations and evaluations of others, and prioritize what you want and how you want to be. By acting on your values and goals, you can live a more fulfilling life.

Summary ~ Let go of tiredness and live your own life

Letting go of tiredness isn't something you can do overnight. It's an ongoing process of self-reflection, self-understanding, and conscious change of behavior in your daily life. However, by calming down and making time for yourself, little by little, things will turn around. The choices we make every day ultimately change the quality of our lives.

From now on, take care of yourself and build calm and balanced relationships. Taking care of yourself is never selfish. Rather, it is only by fulfilling ourselves that we can care for others.

That's the most important step in creating your own happiness and building better relationships with the people around you. Let's live a fulfilling life by pursuing a way of life that is unique to us and building better relationships.

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