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Psychological barriers in the name of "solitude energy" from the perspective of self-protection and growth
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There was a sentence that focused on the concept of "loneliness energy" emitted by others and discussed its effects and countermeasures. This sentence is an attempt to present the mechanism and coping methods of the experience of being negatively evaluated or degraded by the words and actions of others as a kind of psychological barrier called "loneliness energy".
In this article, we will critically examine this concept of "solitary energy" and delve into the lessons it learns from a more realistic and constructive perspective. Specifically
Article Contents
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The validity and limitations of the concept of "solitary energy": Identify the potential of this concept and its weakness in the lack of scientific evidence.
What is the true nature of negative influences from others?
Rather than using the vague expression "loneliness energy," we will analyze what kind of psychological factors are influencing it.
Characteristics of susceptible people
Rather than focusing on "good people," we will consider in detail what kind of psychological tendencies people are susceptible to.
Specific remedies
Rather than the abstract solution of "breaking free from suggestion," he proposes ways to protect himself from the negative influences of others through concrete actions and ways of thinking.
Relationships as an opportunity for growth
Present a perspective that sees negative relationships as an opportunity to deepen self-understanding and grow.
1. The validity of the concept of "solitary energy" and its limitations
The concept of "solitude energy" can be evaluated as an attempt to express the psychological impact of the negative words and actions of others in a form that is easy to understand intuitively. By explaining specific symptoms such as light-headedness and dizziness as if they were the effects of invisible energy, it will be easier to empathize with your own experience and become aware of the problem.
However, the term "solitary energy" is only a figurative expression with little scientific basis. It is not something that can be measured like physical energy, and the specific mechanism is unknown. Therefore, relying too much on this concept can lead to misunderstanding the essence of the problem or making it difficult to find a solution.
For example, if you blame your boss's harsh words on "lonely energy," you may overlook the possibility that you lack communication skills or have problems with the way you work. Also, if you set an abstract goal to block out the "solitary energy", you will not be able to translate it into concrete action, and the situation will not improve.
Therefore, it is important to consider the concept of "solitary energy" as a gateway to becoming aware of the problem and to try to understand the specific psychological factors behind it.
2. What is the true nature of negative influences from others?
Instead of the vague expression "loneliness energy," it is important to understand the specific psychological factors behind negative influences from others. Here are some of the most common factors:
Cognitive biases
People tend to interpret information based on their preconceived notions and experiences. For example, if you have received a negative evaluation from your boss in the past, you may interpret even the slightest words or actions of that boss in a negative way.
Low self-esteem
People with low self-esteem tend to take the words of others and take negative evaluations excessively. If you believe that you can't do your job, you won't be able to objectively judge what your boss points out, and you'll be more depressed than necessary.
Desire for approval
People who have a strong desire to be recognized by others may be extremely afraid of criticism and may look too much at the other person's complexion. As a result, you may not be able to express your opinion or refuse the other person's request.
Obedience to authority
People tend to be more obedient to the opinions of those who have authority (bosses, teachers, parents, etc.). Therefore, even if the request is unreasonable, you may not be able to assert your own opinion because you will consider the other person's position.
Psychological safety
If an organization or team does not ensure an environment where people feel safe to express their opinions and emotions (psychological safety), people may atrophy and become unable to perform at their best.
These psychological factors interact with each other and act in complex ways. For example, people with low self-esteem may have cognitive biases that cause them to negatively interpret the words and actions of others, and to cater excessively to others in order to satisfy their need for approval.
3. Characteristics of susceptible people
It is important to consider in detail what kind of psychological tendencies people are susceptible to the negative influence of others, rather than a vague definition of a "good person". Here are some of the most common features:
Highly empathetic
People who have a high ability to understand and empathize with the emotions of others tend to be more susceptible to and influenced by the negative emotions of others.
Has a tendency to self-sacrifice
People who are willing to put their time and effort into the service of others may not be able to say no to the other person's request and may end up carrying the burden.
perfectionism
In our quest for perfection, we can become overly concerned about trivial mistakes and criticisms, which can lead to stress.
I'm not good at assertiveness
People who are not good at expressing their opinions and emotions openly are easily swayed by the opinions of others and may accept unreasonable demands.
Past Trauma:
Past traumatic experiences (bullying, abuse, etc.) can affect your current relationships and make you hypersensitive to the words and actions of others.
These traits are not necessarily negative. Empathy and a self-sacrificing spirit are important factors in a smooth relationship. However, when these traits become excessive, they become more susceptible to the influence of others, which can erode their own mind and body.
4. Specific measures to be taken
Rather than an abstract solution of "breaking free from suggestion," it proposes ways to protect ourselves from the negative influences of others through concrete actions and ways of thinking.
Correcting cognitive distortions
Be aware of cognitive biases and try to have an objective perspective.
Increase self-esteem
Recognize your strengths and strengths and take action to increase your self-esteem.
Assertive communication
Acquire the skills to communicate your opinions and feelings openly and politely.
Draw boundaries
Instead of accepting all of the demands of others, have the courage to say no in order to protect your time and energy.
Stress Management
Have time and hobbies to relax so that you don't accumulate stress.
Seek professional help
If past trauma or emotional trauma is affecting you, seek professional help, such as a counselor or therapist.
These remedies don't have an immediate effect. It requires daily awareness and effort. However, by acquiring these skills, you will be able to protect yourself from the negative influences of others and live more independently.
5. Relationships as an opportunity for growth
Don't just see negative relationships as a source of pain, but rather as an opportunity to deepen your self-understanding and grow.
Develop self-understanding: Observe what emotions arise in different situations, and recognize your weaknesses and challenges.
Analyze relationship patterns : Look back at past relationships to see if similar patterns are repeated.
Gain learning: You can learn a variety of skills from difficult relationships, such as communication skills and problem-solving skills.
Use it as a catalyst for personal growth: Overcoming difficult situations can increase your self-esteem and help you grow spiritually.
Build new relationships : Actively build relationships that are beneficial to you and build a supportive network.
Relationships aren't always good. Sometimes, you will face difficult situations. However, such experiences can be a valuable opportunity to develop self-understanding and grow.
Summary
The concept of "solitary energy" can be evaluated as an attempt to express the negative effects of others in a way that is easy to understand intuitively. However, this concept is only a figurative expression with little scientific basis.
The key is not to rely on the concept of "solitary energy," but to understand the specific psychological factors behind it and take concrete actions, such as correcting cognitive distortions, increasing self-esteem, and trying to communicate assertively.
It is also important to have a perspective that sees negative relationships as an opportunity to deepen self-understanding and grow, rather than just as a source of pain.
Overcoming difficult relationships can help us grow stronger, wiser, and more human.
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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965
Since childhood, he has been plagued by troubles, illnesses, and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena. However, one day at the age of 20, he participated in an event, had a strange experience at the venue, and received a lightning energy from heaven that seemed to pierce his brain and his spinal cord, and his psychic abilities blossomed. After that, he started researching psychology and psychic powers, and now he has combined psychic abilities and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics Exorcism" with his own radionics technique. Beyond exorcism, memorial services, and healing, "it is possible to cure luck"
