2025.04.04

A maiden who captures Valentine's Day with psychology on her side

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Find your own loveAs Valentine's Day approaches, the city is enveloped in a romantic atmosphere. The shop is lined with cute chocolates and full of happy smiles of lovers.

Every time you see such a scene, you may feel your heart beat, saying, "I want to have a wonderful love too." "I want to have a boyfriend by Valentine's Day!" is a very natural and wonderful feeling.

But let's stop and think about it for a moment. Love is not something that someone else "makes" for you, but something that is slowly nurtured by a heart and heart that is close to each other.

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The way to look at love is psychology

The way to look at love is psychology

Why don't you put aside your feelings of impatience and go on a journey to find "your own love"? In this article, let's explore how to make love come true more effectively, using our knowledge of psychology.

1. Sharpen your antenna for "likes" through mental preparation exercises and psychology

Before you start your love journey, do some mental preparation exercises. It's a time to reflect on your heart. By incorporating a psychological perspective, you can deepen your self-understanding and lay the foundation for making love come true.

Sharpen the antenna of "like" - the law of similarity and the law of complementarity

What kind of people are you attracted to? Appearance, personality, values... Think of your ideal type.

In psychology, the "law of similarity" and the "law of complementarity" are known as factors that attract people.
The "law of similarity" is that you are attracted to people who have a lot in common with you. When you meet people who share similar hobbies and values, it is easy to feel a sense of closeness.
The law of complementarity states that we are attracted to people who have something we don't have. Sometimes I am attracted to perspectives and strengths that are different from my own.
Knowing the rules will help you understand what kind of people you are likely to be attracted to and what kind of people you are suitable for.
Actively go to places where you can meet people who share your interests and interests, and look for common ground in conversations. Also, by actively interacting with people who are different from you, you may be able to discover new attractions.

Valuing "individuality" and increasing self-esteem

Do you ever think "I want a boyfriend" so much that you lie to yourself or overdo it? Love is something you nurture with someone who accepts you for who you are.

Psychology says that people with high self-esteem look confident and attractive.
What you like, what you're good at, what you value... Let's cherish such "individuality". It's also helpful to remember your past successes and reaffirm your strengths.
Practice: Make it a habit to write down three good things about yourself every day. It doesn't matter if it's a small thing. You can increase your self-esteem by focusing on the good aspects of your behavior and personality, such as "I was able to spend my time with a smile today" or "I was able to be kind to someone."

Setting Small Goals: Goal Setting Theory

It's nice to be enthusiastic about "making a boyfriend by Valentine's Day!", but it's also recommended to set small goals such as "I want to get along with people I'm interested in" or "I want to meet more new people".

According to the goal-setting theory of psychology, setting specific and achievable goals makes it easier to stay motivated and take action.
Practice: Set specific action goals, such as "talking to three new people in a week" or "greeting people you care about with a smile every day." It's also important to praise yourself every time you achieve a goal.

2. Let's open the door to encounters and communicate effectively with psychology

Once you're ready, it's time to open the door to dating. By using your knowledge of psychology, you can communicate more effectively and get closer to your partner.

Try to visit places of interest, simple contact effect

Hobby events, workshops, community meetups... If you are interested in a place that interests you even a little, be brave and go there.

According to the "simple contact effect" in psychology, it is said that the more people meet each other, the easier it is to feel a sense of closeness and liking.
Let's practice and visit the places you are interested in repeatedly, not just once. Continuous contact can deepen the relationship.

Take advantage of the online world: The effect of self-disclosure

Online communities and dating apps can also be a great way to meet people. However, it is important to choose a reliable service without rushing.

Create your profile carefully and convey your appeal to the fullest.

Psychology has shown that "self-disclosure" is very effective in increasing intimacy with the other person. By sharing your information little by little, it will be easier for them to open up.
In your practice and profile, be specific about your hobbies and values. When exchanging messages, it is also important to convey your thoughts and feelings little by little and ask questions that encourage the other person to self-disclose.

Valuing Connections with Friends: The Principle of Social Proof

Actively participate in gatherings with friends.

A friend of a friend may bring you a wonderful encounter.
According to the "principle of social proof" of psychology, listen to the actions and opinions that many people support.
We tend to judge ourselves to be right. If your friend is someone you trust, you can feel safe with them.
In addition to asking your friends to introduce you to a good person, actively participate in gatherings of friends and expand your network of new people.

Try to talk to them positively, mirroring effect

If you see someone you care about, be brave enough to talk to them.

Even just saying "hello" with a smile is the first step to a wonderful encounter.

In psychology, there is such a thing as the "mirroring effect".
By consciously imitating the other person's gestures, facial expressions, and the way they speak, it will be easier for them to feel closer to you.
In practice and conversation, try to subtly imitate the other person's language and facial expressions. In addition, by listening carefully to the other person and showing empathy, you can shorten the emotional distance between you and the other person.

3. Deepen relationships on Valentine's Day, before, after, and psychology

Valentine's Day, and around it, is also a chance to nurture wonderful encounters. Use your knowledge of psychology to deepen your relationships more effectively.

Enjoy the Valentine's Day event, the suspension bridge effect

Attend a Valentine's Day event in the city or a Valentine's Day party with friends.

The "suspension bridge effect" in psychology is that it makes it easier for you to develop romantic feelings for someone you meet in a heart-pounding situation.
The special atmosphere of the event may be a good opportunity to develop your relationship.
By actively enjoying the practice and event and sharing the situation, you can shorten the distance between you and the other person.

Try a casual approach: The principle of reciprocity

If you are interested in someone, you can give them a handmade chocolate or a small gift.

The "principle of reciprocity" in psychology is the psychology that if you receive something, you must give it back. Showing favors from you will make it easier for them to like you.
Practice It is also important to express gratitude and favor in words when giving gifts. However, it is recommended to make it a light gift so that the recipient does not feel like a burden.

Nurturing Relationships After Valentine's Day: The Law of Consistency

Keep in touch with people you met on Valentine's Day.

The "law of consistency" in psychology is the psychology that people want to be consistent in their behavior, actions, and attitudes.
Once you get in touch with each other, it's easier to keep the relationship going in the future.
As a thank you for practicing and Valentine's Day, let's actively contact them and invite them to eat or play.

4. Don't forget to improve yourself and boost your confidence with psychology

In order to attract a great encounter, it is important to let your inner and outer self shine. Use your knowledge of psychology to improve your confidence.

Polishing appearance, placebo effect

Try to wear clean clothes and hairstyles. It's also fun to research makeup and fashion that looks good on you.

The "placebo effect" in psychology is a phenomenon in which something is ineffective, but if you believe that it will work and use it, it will actually have an effect.
Believing in yourself as "nice" can help you shine from the inside and feel confident.
Practice Every time you look in the mirror, praise yourself for what you like. A confident look attracts those around you.

Inner Improvement and Growth Mindset

Actively engage in things that interest you, such as reading, watching movies, or visiting museums.

In psychology, the "growth mindset" is a state of believing that one's abilities can be developed through effort.
Gaining new knowledge and experience is the secret to increasing your self-confidence and becoming a more attractive person.
Practice and actively absorb knowledge by reading books in your field of interest and attending seminars.

Valuing a smile and emotional contagion

Keeping a smile on your face is the most magical thing about attracting those around you.

In psychology, "emotional contagion" means that a person's emotions are contagious to those around them.
When you smile, the people around you smile and create a positive atmosphere.
Practice and consciously raise the corners of your mouth and try to smile.

5. Don't rush, don't overdo it, control stress with psychology

Love is not something to be grasped in a hurry. The important thing is to be yourself and be natural. Use your knowledge of psychology to control your stress and continue your love journey with peace of mind.

Don't rush results: Cognitive-behavioral therapy

You don't have to stick to making a boyfriend by Valentine's Day.

"Cognitive-behavioral therapy" in psychology is a way to review your own patterns of thinking and behavior,
It is a treatment that reduces stress. If you feel impatient, switch the idea that you have to make a boyfriend to the idea that you will be happy if you meet a wonderful person.
Practice and become aware of your habits of thinking and turn negative thoughts into positive ones.

Don't be afraid of failure and increase resilience

If something doesn't work out, don't get discouraged.

Failure is a source of growth. In psychology, "resilience" refers to the ability to recover from difficult situations.
It's important to look back at past failures and find the positives about what you can learn from them.
Practice: When you fail, don't blame yourself, but learn from your mistakes and make the most of them next time.

Take care of yourself and self-care

Being in love is great, but don't forget to take care of yourself. "Self-care" in psychology is an action to maintain physical and mental health.

Respect your feelings, avoid unreasonable relationships, and make sure you have time to rest and rejuvenate.
Make time to relax, such as practicing and listening to your favorite music, burning aromas, and enriching your bathing time.

Finally, Valentine's Day is the consciousness of falling in love

Valentine's Day is a wonderful opportunity to be aware of love. But the most important thing is to listen to your heart and find your own love.

With your knowledge of psychology on your side, don't be in a hurry, take your time, and enjoy the journey of searching for your crush. And if you have a wonderful encounter, please cherish and nurture that relationship.

I sincerely hope that your love will be happy and fulfilled.

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