Not being liked by people you like, being liked by people who are not interested ~ Women's troubles

The human mind is as unpredictable as the wind, and sometimes it can go in a direction that surprises us. Especially in love, many women may have had the experience of not being able to get the person they like to turn around, but surprisingly they continue to be approached by people who are not interested. Why is this happening? How can we find a happy relationship when we dream of the ideal relationship but are confused by the gap between it and reality? We'll untangle this complex worries and delve into how to find your love life while maintaining your mental balance.

A thorough dissection of the block of belief that love doesn't work

Chapter 1: Why can't we only like people we like? Its complex mechanism

First, let's dig deeper into the mechanism of why only people who like people don't like them. This is often a complex combination of factors that can't be dismissed simply as "incompatible."

1.1 Rethink your approach

1. Over-the-top approach
   This is a case where you try to convey your favor so much that you put pressure on the other person or act like a stalker. An over-the-top approach can make the other person feel "heavy" and create a sense of caution 。
   
2. Under-approached
   It is a case of hesitation to appeal to oneself because of the feeling of "I can't do it anyway ...".
   Not only do you shrink in front of the person you like, and you may not be able to demonstrate your true charm, but the other person may misunderstand that you are not interested.
   
3. Unbalanced approach
   This is a case where you approach the other person only for your own convenience without considering the other person's situation or feelings. For example, contacting them frequently when they're busy or talking about topics they're not interested in can be counterproductive

1.2 Consequences of Lack of Self-Esteem

1. Lack of self-confidence If you don't have confidence in yourself, you won't be able to behave confidently in front of the people you like, and the other person may misinterpret you as "unattractive."
   
2. Self-deprecation
   If you say self-deprecating words, such as "I don't care anyway," people around you may see your value as low.
   
3. Passive posture
   They are afraid to act aggressively on their own and always wait for action from their partner, which can lead to missed opportunities for love.
   
4. Fear of rejection
   If you've been hurt in a past relationship, you tend to avoid aggressive approaches for fear of rejection.

1.3 Double-check compatibility with your partner

1. Mismatch of values
   If you have different fundamental values, it will be difficult for you to understand each other and you will not be able to deepen your relationship.
   
2. Personality discrepancies
   If your personality doesn't match, you can easily feel stressed even if you're together, and it may not last long.
   
3. Differences in views on love
   If you have different ways of thinking about love, it is easy for each other's expectations to diverge and cause misunderstandings.
   
4. Timing discrepancies
   Even if you are compatible, if you don't have the right timing for each other's romantic needs, the relationship may not progress.

1.4 How Past Romantic Experiences Affect Present Relationships

1.  trauma
   Traumatic experiences in past relationships can make you timid about the next one.
   
2. Failure Patterns
   You may unconsciously repeat patterns that didn't work out in your past relationships.
   
3. Fixation of the ideal image
   Past relationships can fix the image of the ideal partner, and the hurdles to demand from a real partner may be too high.

Chapter 2: Why do people who are not interested in you like you? The surprising reason for this

On the other hand, why would you get a favor from someone who isn't that interested? There may be a surprising reason hidden there.

2.1 When your charm is maximized

1. Be Natural
   By being yourself as you normally are, without being nervous, your charm will be maximized and you may attract the heart of the other person.
   
2. Attitude to afford
   Since you don't have the same desperation as when approaching someone you like, you may seem to have a relaxed attitude and make a good impression on the other person.
   
3. Friendliness
   By interacting with them in a relaxed state, you will make the other person feel closer and it will be easier to shorten the distance.

2.2 Possibility of matching the other person's preferred type

1. Appearance preferences
   It's simply possible that the other person likes your appearance and is attracted to you.
   
2. Personality preferences
   It is possible that the other person likes your personality and feels comfortable being with you.
   
3. Complementary complexes
   It is possible that the other person is attracted to you because you have something that you do not have. For example, I am attracted to you because you have a brightness and kindness that you do not have.

2.3 Could I be mistaken? Review Signs of Favor

1. Overlooking Signs of Favor
   It's possible that you don't realize that the other person likes you.
   
2. misunderstanding
   It's possible that the other person is just being nice to you, but they mistakenly think that they like you.
   
3. subjective impression
   If you have low self-esteem, such as "I can't do it anyway...", you may overinterpret the other person's little kindness.

Chapter 3: Steps to Remove the Mental Block of "Love Doesn't Work"

So, how can you remove the mental block that "love doesn't work" and grasp a happier relationship? From here, I will explain the specific steps.

3.1 Objectively recognize your state of mind

1. Self-analysis
   Write down on a piece of paper "When do you have negative feelings about love?" and "What kind of mistakes have you made in past relationships?" and do a self-analysis.
   
2. Recording Emotions
   Keep a diary of what you feel and think about your love life so that you can understand your state of mind.
   
3. Objectivity
   By objectively reviewing your emotions and behaviors, you may be able to see areas for improvement.

3.2 Heal past trauma and move forward

1. Expert support
   If you can't solve the problem on your own, consider seeking professional help, such as a counselor.
   
2. Self-acceptance
   Accept your past self and stop blaming yourself.
   
3. Draw lessons from past experiences
   Don't just regret your past mistakes, learn from them and use them for your next relationship.

3.3 Increase self-esteem and regain self-confidence

1. Recognize your strengths
   Find a lot of good things about yourself and be confident.
   
2. Accumulating small successes
   Set goals and build confidence by achieving them.
   
3. Use words that boost your self-esteem
   Try to use words that encourage you, such as "I can do it" or "I'm attractive."

3.4 Abandon stereotypes about love

1. Don't cling to your ideal partner
   Instead of looking for the perfect partner, look at them from a realistic perspective.
   
2. Abandon the idea that love should be like this
   There is more than one form of love. Seek a shape that feels good for you.
   
3. Don't be afraid to fail
   If you're afraid of failure, nothing will happen. Let's be brave and take the first step.

3.5 Take positive action to seize the chance of romance

1. Improve yourself
   Polish not only your appearance, but also your inner self and become an attractive person.
   
2. Be proactive
   Actively participate in meeting places and increase interactions with the opposite sex.
   
3. Enhance your communication skills
   Listen carefully to what the other person has to say and value an attitude of empathy.
   
4. Maintain a reasonable distance
   If you make a mistake in your sense of distance from the other person, the relationship may not work out. Let's deepen the relationship while maintaining an appropriate sense of distance.
   
5. Don't be impatient
   Don't expect immediate results, but build relationships slowly. Don't be impatient.

3.6 Fulfilling and Balanced Outside of Love

1. Enjoy your hobbies
   Find something you love and are passionate about, and have fun. Socialize with friendsSpending time with like-minded friends can heal your mind and give you a positive feeling.
   
2. Dedicate yourself to work or study
   By devoting yourself to your work and studies, you will feel a sense of personal growth and gain confidence.

Summary: Remove the blocks of your heart and have your own love

The block of belief that "love doesn't work" is a major barrier to your relationship. However, that wall is not indestructible.

By following the steps outlined in this article, facing yourself, and removing your emotional blocks, you are sure to find a happy relationship.
Romance doesn't always pay off for your efforts.

However, by improving yourself and being proactive, you are more likely to get a good outcome.
Don't be impatient, believe in yourself, and go slowly.
I wholeheartedly support your love life.

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965 Since childhood, he has been plagued by troubles, illnesses, and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena. However, one day at the age of 20, he participated in an event, had a strange experience at the venue, and received a lightning energy from heaven that seemed to pierce his brain and his spinal cord, and his psychic abilities blossomed. After that, he started researching psychology and psychic powers, and now he has combined psychic abilities and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics Exorcism" with his own radionics technique. Beyond exorcism, memorial services, and healing, "it is possible to cure luck"